Bachelors are not allowed!!

Yesterday while having the meeting in my society , I heard few gentlemen raising the slogan for barring the bachelors to enter the society as the tenants. It reminded me of an old Indian movie which depicted how Britishers  use to treat Indians during the colonial times. They use to put the board over the gates of any club house owned by them  displaying the message “Dogs and Indians are not allowed“. Something similar was happening there in the meeting in my society. Some of the losers who might be in there late 30s were trying to form a group with one self declared leader(I don’t want to put down his name here) to tag the entire bachelors of this nation as the hooligans. The leader of that dumb fold loser’s union were trying to pass on the strict regulations on the society members much for their own individual fear might be residing in their heart from a long time.

I was among those few who protested the stupidity of the clustered fools who think that they are above the moral and wisdom of other flat owners or even the bachelors whom they were trying to debar to enter the premises. Some of them said ” Nilesh!! That might be your individual opinion”. I feel pity on them who underestimates an individual opinion and specially when that individual is a blog writer. Finally they were not been able to pass their stupid ideas, at least not on me. But, after coming back from that meeting I did an introspection to understand the reason behind such a fear psychosis against the bachelors in almost all the major cities of Maharashtra. I gathered some of the statistics to understand the poor closed mindset of the people in our civic society, who try to impose their own fear on others by hiding in the crowd of cowards like them.

On my research I did find some of the social and legal angle to this particular issue. I read one article on the same issue which said “Sadly, Indian society still remains most of the times a closed one with clannish mindset and claustrophobic views. It is not uncommon to see, particularly in Non-metropolitan cities and towns, owners refusing to let their houses/apartments on rent to persons of certain communities or castes, and to certain sections of populations like bachelors or single women. Though this certainly reeks of some backward thinking or narrow mindset, but there may be a legal remedy against such stupidity”. On further exploration I found that any society which is duly registered in the court can set their rules on the common consent of all the society members, but a group of few senseless maniacs who lags the basic wisdom of humanity cannot alone set any regulations. Also, any committee within the society do not have the constitutional rights to overrule the decision of a flat owner to rent his/her flat to whomever they want.

That was the one side of the story. On the other side I wanted to understand what actually  bachelors have done to create such a wave against them. Yes, it is important to understand. Till last year I was myself a bachelor and was myself seeing the boards on society gates which stated “Bachelors and foreigners are not allowed”. It did not affect me much because I got an opportunity to convince one of the flat owners of a big housing society in Pune. He understood that I was safe for being a tenant, and he never received any complains about me as such till the time I stayed in that society. I did try to set the right example for the bachelors. I was never seen with 10 guys drinking on my terrace or calling the girls to celebrate my nights. And soon I started getting the invitations from my neighbors for celebrating Diwali, Holi or Eid . That’s how the working bachelors live without causing harm to anyone.

But what I heard in that society meeting yesterday was quite amusing. The self declare leader was trying to convince people with a peculiar thought. He mentioned that his wife and kids are afraid to walk in the society due to some bachelors who are living on rent in my society. Funny!! The individuals who can’t provide a sense of security to his own family in his own society, they are trying to form the committee to secure the entire society. Most of them apparently forgets the basic fact that they were bachelors in some part of their lives and might have stayed somewhere on the rent. What could have been their condition if they could have been tagged as the hooligans or gigolos? Such people might have taken birth as an old man in their families, but my hopes are with those residents in my society who are young, brave and dynamic and can fight against such stupidity.

Certainly there are young guys and girls who might have taken the advantage of the freedom given to them to maintain their privacy, but does that give authority to a society or a group of owners to tag the entire 3 million bachelors as the nuisance creator in this nation. I personally never bother about the issue till the time I attended the yesterday’s meeting. I personally felt that all those individuals in my society who were singing the cheap songs against the bachelors were chosen to lead the society on a honorary basis, and they do not have any professional expertise on such matters,  and these people invariably get carried away by an illusion of power and develop a misplaced sense of self importance. They try to enforce many arbitrary practices in the hope that they would not be effectively challenged. But, as a responsible resident of the same society I will keep challenging them for saving my society from being one undeclared “Khap-Panchayat” of Haryana. I may stand alone in this battle but I will surely not let them win with the evils in their mind against our own guys and girls.

Nilesh Ranjan

13 thoughts on “Bachelors are not allowed!!

  1. So true, as a single girl, it is so difficult to get into a decent society. I had to compromise on my safety (my current society does not have a guard) and living conditions (almost no new building allows bachelors) to get into my current flat.
    If the society has a concern, they can meet with the tenant and tell them the rules of the society but to bar them absolutely is the solution for most societies! It is like single people are not humans.
    I have lived in the gulf, and I find the rules of the Indian democracy more autocratic than the monarchy there…


    • I understand that Sri… and that is why I am going to take this forward. I won’t be able to make a big change but my effort is to slam my door tightly over the faces of self declared netas in my society!!


  2. We must not forget that we all were / are bachelors at some point of time and to tag an entire community as hooligans on the basis of an odd experiences here and there is not justified. Agree to Nilesh’s viewpoint.

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  3. I agree with this and Most of us apparently forgets the basic fact that we were also bachelors in some part of our lives and might have stayed somewhere on the rent!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.

    Not all Bachelors are bad or we cant predict so we have conditions to be assigned before the owner rents his flat, although we have police verification’s for all rentals every where so there is no harm in giving rent to bachelor unless we have all necessary records of the person and there parents

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  4. Directly saying that the society guys are wrong and you are correct would not be wise. They may have faced some situation that is uncomfortable for them, their family, may not be for you. For ex if a girl in her early 20’s ( undergoing graduation ) walks in to your house wearing short shorts, asking for a cup of sugar may be okey for us ( nuclear family of our age-group ) but it may not work for a family staying with their parents in 60s or 70s. If you comment on their clothes, youth will take it very offensive, and advice the old people to keep their eyes closed. Its a situational acceptance or non-acceptance. I wrote about clothes here because this is the first thing that is visible. There comes many other things with today’s youth like liquor, dance parties, DJs, late night parties, friends, close friends, very close friends, girl friends, live-in relationships, and many others that are very dear for the youth / bachelors, but may be offensive to someone.

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    • Well my friend!! You have represented the conservatism in a fabulous way. On one side we take the oath not to judge a person by their clothing and on the other side you are talking about their clothes. If you treat the youngsters properly with little guidance then surely they will not be the hooligans but if we all stand tall against them then I am sure they will make our old age miserable. We all have good or bad experiences with different segment of population in this country, but does that give an authority to anyone to tag the entire segment in a wrong way. Think of your own child who may need to rent a flat in future when he is grown up and everyone refuses to rent him a flat just because he will be a bachelor. There certainly needs to be a regulation to make our youngsters understand the importance of living in a civic society but barring them out is like digging our own graves. Its easy to be a self declared judge for others rather but tomorrow when our own son or daughter will face the issue then nothing will be left except the deep rooted regret. The people who support such stupidity are either conservatives with shit hole in their brain or definitely a coward who are jealous to see the youngsters and their youthfulness….


  5. There’s a very deep resemblance of the hypocritical attitudes our society has. I personally haven’t been able to understand this and I don’t even want to stretch my grey cells to get into understanding of such philosophies. Like the britishers punched on the gate boards stopping Indians and dogs, our temples have similar philosophies forbidding urchins and beggars to enter inside the places of worship. We keep chanting that all humans are equal in the eyes of god but we segregate them on the basis of their dress or bank balances when it comes to worshipping the Almighty (or elsewhere). This hypocrisy of the attitudes is not only limited to the residential premises but also, in a way, in our temples too. Which is sad but true. Be it bachelors as mentioned in the topic above or beggars in the temples, the only truth that comes out is the degree of two sidedness we have or over the time we’ve made ourselves to believe in.

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    • Boss!! You have nailed it completely… I feel so helpless to see the majority standing for a wrong cause…In my society specially it appears like one dog started barking and others accompanying it to form a cluster. I would love to see their balls being chopped off by the bachelors.. Youth is considered to be the building block of the nation and these morons want to block them to enter the premises.. So, buddy!! Balls off to those idiots who maintains a double standard!!


  6. These morons are everywhere. We are fighting a-hole epidemic in our society in which ppl love the word Ban. You better draft your arguments and present in next society meeting. I am quite sure majority of owners will not agree to restrict bachelor tenant options. These decisions are normally taken in 5-8 member club and presented as majority opinion. Societies need to work strong on grievance redressal rather banning this and that.
    Around 80-90% all of sexual harassment complaints gets filed in workplace are against married guys. If we take this data into account we should ban all married guys from workforce. Property rates has tripled in last 10 years but holes still not filled 🙂


    • You went an extra mile over the issue and I don’t have words to show my gratitude for that…I will not draft because the population of morons surely outwit the intellectuals .. I will ensure not abide by their stupid proposals and whenever I will have to rent my flat..I will definitely entertain the bachelors.. let them whistle their ass..


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