Turning 30!!

By this time most of my friends of my time might have realized what it is like being around 30 in age. When I meet some some of my friends luckily when we get some time out of the so called busy schedule,then I find some of them are pot bellied, some with white hair(some without any hair at all 🙂 ), some with kids,some as newly married and few of them are still bachelor or single for whatsoever reason they have. In any way life for all of us is no more same and colorful, it has started showing grey color to all of us when we see the kids who took birth during our adolescence are now themselves adolescent.

Some of them wanted to look and feel younger to our ages and some of them want to look and feel like sophisticated like they always wanted to prove something right from the childhood but was not able to 🙂 . Now everything is supposed to be planned and organized as we won’t be able to afford the carelessness or negligence like our school or college days or may be in the initial stage of our career. Now we have to think while speaking something in front of colleagues, parents and even close friends who been with us for more than 15 years as everyone suddenly turned out to be over sensitive towards everything.

But, in true sense I find life bit easy in this age because of plenty of experience and exposure with people and places due to changing jobs, girl friends, friends , location and all. If given a proper look then it is apparently visible that in this age you are perfectly fit to any age group. With kids(below 3 years) you will have a paternal touch, you will enjoy more with teenagers as it takes you to a very recent past of yours and you find yourself very much aligned to them, you can be a key decision maker in your family as your parents know that you are dealing with lot of educated and uneducated people out there and so their reliability on you has grown. You can fall in love again and most likely can achieve success due to 4 5 experiences(mostly failure) of school and college time.

Guys who are married in this age will more likely to be a passionate husband and an efficient one as they are less likely to say no to their wives for anything as they are more likely to know women to some extent due to their prior experiences 🙂 . Staying in a bachelor life by default makes you an efficient cook due to onsite assignments as you don;t have a choice of dhabas or any cheap and good food availability like India. And its a known fact and scientifically proven that a man with good cooking ability can keep their wives happy all the time. Wife feels proud to have such husbands 🙂 . They feel very privileged and blessed 🙂 .

I have seen guys crying out “yaar ab pahle waali baat nahi rahi, pahle toa ham yeh karte thhe woh karte thhe(Dude its not more like earlier time. Earlier I use to do this and that and bla bla)” . But, I found it more beautiful in this age as I am more health conscious, morally and logically correct, and stronger as an individual then in any other age. I go to gym regularly, I am more inclined to quit smoking, keep myself updated with news, keeps in touch regularly with my parents and friends, more respectful towards women because I started finding them better than men in every possible ways. I find myself more at mistakes in comparison to others which could have never been possible when I was a teenager or in early twenties.

Yes, I do agree that things do change but for betterment and that’s how it is. We all know that this body will keep on decaying with growing age but we always have a choice to keep our mind, heart and soul fresh, matured and clean by keeping ourselves morally high and correct. It never matter where, when and how you were born, privileged or unprivileged. What matters more is when, where and how you die and what has been your contribution to this world. And so 30 is the perfect age to tighten your belt for the journey ahead which may not be funny like a life of a 15 year old but an innocent and matured smile on your face can make it easier for everyone. Like they say “Smile is the universal language of kindness”.

Nilesh Ranjan

Friends without benefit!!

Quite a weird topic but very common among everyone. Our forefathers use to pass a quote very frequently that “Your actual personality can be revealed by the kind of friends you have.”. Not completely true but to a very greater extent its almost right!! Remember the school time when there use to be good boys and bad boys. Good boys use to excel in their studies, teachers use to love them and they never use to get involved in any sort of controversies, but the bad boys were seemingly less interested in studies, more involved in disturbing the teachers and the class, use to pass funny comments at the girls and most of the times involved in endless fights to terrorize others. Teachers use to get pissed off by just looking at them and on top of that girls literally use to hate them for everything they use to do.

But what kept them(bad boys) motivated to continue with the label of hooligans and unpopularity. It was the kind of friendship and attachment among themselves. They might not been good in their studies and impressing teachers and girls, but when matter came to friendship then they were real toppers and genius. Most of them were friends to each other without any sort of benefits and that’s what you become at the end of the school time ‘a selfless,content and an energetic person’. On the other hand the gangs of good boys kept on studying and competing others(even to their own so called friends). All of them did well in their exams but none of them were content and most of them were depressed because they scored less than someone in his/her group. So, what they become? A jealous, selfish and ‘full of complains with life’ kind of person.

My intentions are not to motivate the kids to go bad and be less focused towards their studies. But, to make them understand what actually can make them a good person, efficient person and socially accepted wherever they go. A real sense of friendship without any personal agenda definitely helps you to improve as an individual. It is always said that your true friends will never appreciate you for whatever you do and however you do. When I use the term ‘Friends without benefit’ then that represents the group of people who are very happy in the company of each other. They will make fun of each other and will laugh out loudly on small things but will never have any sort of expectations to hear good from each other 🙂 .

Once APJ abdul kalam said that most creative minds in a class are sitting in the last few rows. Why did he say that? Its a common perception that the last benchers are those who are attending the class either to get their attendance or to create some nuisance. Basically those guys may not be individually great but unknowingly they develop a sense of team work and collectively they become capable of performing miracles. Most of the times they don’t have any personal desire or agenda for themselves.And that is what actually requires to be a good human and a successful leader.

Now, adding some personal experiences to the topic without getting biased towards anyone. I personally observed that the studious guys use to envy the heroes of the classrooms who were humorous, quick witty, brave and verbally impressive. And I realized it in those school days only(almost 13 years back) that studying hard can make you pass the exams , competition or fulfill your career oriented goals. But, it can not give you the ability to win the hearts or to be the king of hearts because keeping personal agenda all the time in your mind makes you a very small creature in front of those self less monsters who were sitting in the last rows eating tiffin before lunch break 🙂 . They were friends without benefit.

Nilesh Ranjan

Detachment of aam aadmi from Aam Aadmi Party!!

From a very long time I wanted to cover the 2013’s most sensational emergence of a new self styled political party named as “Aam Aadmi Party” alias AAP led by the self declared revolutionary of the millennium Mr. Arvind Kejriwal. I am personally following him up from  year 2012, which saw one of biggest mass uprising in India led by one of the great social crusader Shri Anna Hazare. Like most of the working Indian Youth, I too got impressed and hopeful about the prominent future of India. He appeared to be very clean, honest and logical while expressing his views in front of an educated mass. That time I was in Chicago following my American dream like most of the other ordinary, mediocre IT professionals, but I did follow all the speeches given by Mr. Arvind Kejriwal on youtube. And then under the little left patriotism,I too donated some amount to AAP in a hope that it will bring the change in Indian politics and will uplift the lost political will power of a nation where Swami Vivekanand’s birthday is celebrated as the Youth Day.

I remember a TV show on AAJTAK where journalist Rahul Kanwal brought up Manishankar Aiyyar from Congress Party, Ravishankar Prasad from BJP and Arvind Kejriwal on a platform to have the discussion over the issue of corruption and forming a new party and all. During the argument Ravishakar Prasad(who is considered to be a great lawyer and a political scholar) told Arvind Kejriwal that if you are in politics then keep a dream of being a CM or PM otherwise your party members will feel cheated. On that great Kejriwal replied ” Ham aapki tarah bhog ki Rajneeti nahi karne aaye hain, ham sahi maayene me janta ki sewa karna chaahte hain(We did not turn up to politics for availing the power and money, rather we are here to serve the people of this country in real sense)” and with these words he left Ravishankar Prasad and Manishakar Aiyyar speechless. And I started clapping in front of my laptop like a stubborn child who gets his favorite toy without knowing the cost and capability of his parent to buy that.

Then I saw him in a show led by Arnab goswami(The nation want to know 🙂 ) where Mr. Kejriwal addressed the intellectual audience with his immense capability to speak the right words at the right time and got lot of applaud from the public sitting in that show and also from those who were sitting in front of laptops(much comfortable in their blankets) . Then he spoke at IIT campuses and addressed the students to make them responsible towards the nation. And miraculously he earned a lot of moral and financial support, sympathy and trust of the intellectuals (the middle class guys and girls who find it painful to see the nation the way it is).

And then Delhi elections came in early 2014 and he got 28 seats giving strong contest to BJP who won 32 seats out of 70. After capturing that much of seats in legislative assembly of Delhi, Aam Aadmi Party emerged as a phenomena to change the face of Indian politics. It made us realize that people of this country can surely sideline the legacy of congress and the so called baahubali culture of Indian politics. We saw Arvind Kejriwal saying “Aji bachcho ki saugandh hai, corrupt parties se na samarthan lenge na denge(I take oath of my children that we will neither be taking support of any corrupt parties or will give our support to form the government). I clapped again like many others in a belief that “Yes, finally this country has got someone like Martin Luthar King or Abrahm Lincoln”.

And then all that dream, believe and trust got shattered by hearing the news of him swearing in as the CM of Delhi with the support of the so called most corrupt political party in the world(Congress). I remember his words to Ravishankar Prasad in a show with AAJTAK and suddenly all his morally correct dialogues appeared to be the dialogues inspired by Prakash Jha’s movie. The worst thing that came in my mind was about the donation I made to the party. I thought that I could have bought wine bottles for my friends for 20 weeks with that money and could have added some color to the funny conversations that we use to have in Chicago over the weekends.  Anyway he was running the government like any other government but then suddenly he resigned from the post of CM(just after 49 days) and went to Varanasi to contest the Loksabha election against Narendra Modi.

All this semi psychotic drama by him and his party suddenly threw him back to the muddy water from where they came. He lost against Narendra Modi and his party lost all the 7 seats from Delhi. Then this great revolutionary started repenting his decision to resign and started apologizing in public which led him getting slapped by auto drivers and all(although I do not support such acts but yes somehow he deserved that may be by his mom or dad for creating ruckus). I do still watch his speeches and arguments but now he appears more like a joker or a looser rather than a charismatic leader. No media or political party is to be blamed for the severe change in the image of Arvind Kejriwal, rather his self eccentricity and self obsession has led him to this situation.

Now a days I hear some of the very peculiar statements given by him which should be highlighted to show his desperation to come back in the power.

1. He said in one of the interview by NDTV that Delhi’s public are saying “They want to see Narendra Modi as PM of India and  Arvind Kejriwal as the CM of Delhi.”. And he made his party’s hoarding on similar concept by using Narendra Modi’s picture. My simple question to him “If BJP is such a corrupt party and they favor Ambanis, Adanis ,etc. then how come people of Delhi want to see him as the PM of this country and not to him.

2. Yesterday he was saying that BJP is afraid of him and his party,which is quite funny in itself. Without getting biased towards BJP my simple question to the great revolutionary would be ” How come a party who won loksabha election in full majority, won four major states like Jharkhand, Haryana, Maharashtra and J&K in one year can be afraid of a party with 4 MPs?”

3. Now a days you can hear him calling BJP’s CM candidate Kiran Bedi as an opportunist. Is that the face we wanted in our political system? He always had a choice to be different from the existing politicians who use bad words for their friends in public to remain in power, who believes that we Indians do not have moral values and we prefer power over friendship and relationship. We already have people like Lalu Prasad Yadav, Nitish Kumar, Mulayam Singh Yadav, etc. who keep on becoming friends and enemies as per the requirement. Then why do we need Arvind Kejriwal who is doing the same thing?

End of the day I did realize one thing very clearly that you can fool the mass for couple of times by touching their pain of daily life and raising the question which they ask to themselves everyday, but you cannot fool them forever. Aam aadmi is detached from Aam Aadmi Party because this nation is already overburdened by drama queens in politics, it cannot accommodate one more. This party has really spoiled the future of young political leaders who in real sense wanted to change the fate of this country without having any personal agenda. Now, people will not trust anyone with morally correct words and filmi dialogues. He made it more tougher for the Indians to form a clean political party as an alternative to the existing parties. Its almost similar to the people like Asharam Baapu and Saint Rampal who played with the emotion of the people and their belief in God.

Nilesh Ranjan